Here are some general tips to ensure you have the most relaxing affair. DON'T GET CAUGHT!
Be Discreet. The number 1 rule to having an affair is to not talk about it. Don’t tell anyone – not your co-worker, not your friend, not your hairdresser. The less people know the less likely you are to be discovered.
Don’t store any evidence. No pictures, no cinema stubs, no receipts. Dispose of everything
Be careful what you spend. Only spend what you can afford or get away with.
Don’t leave a money trail. Pay by cash or have an alternative bank card – you can set this up to your work address. Never use a shared account for spending. Ensure you receive paperless bank statements so that your partner can’t find anything in your post.
Make sure you do not drastically change your day-to-day routine. If you change your normal schedule too much this will arouse suspicion.
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Make sure to pay your spouse attention too. If you are a lacking in effort you used to put in – this may give your partner a reason to start checking up on you.
Don’t get angry with your partner if they begin to ask any questions – this will make them more wary of your behaviour. Brush their comments off light heartedly with a well thought out excuse – or make a joke out of it to ease the situation.
Compartmentalize! Make sure you keep up with any lies, remember what you told your wife VS what you told your mistress.
If you have to tell someone, make sure they are trustworthy. It’s also handy to use this person as an alibi if you need to ‘I’m not having an affair, I’m having a beer with Andy.’
Organize to meet up at a suitable time. Don’t schedule to meet when or where your partner may be snooping around.
Location – think about where you’re meeting. Don’t go local, distance can allow for better anonymity.
Practice Safe Sex – sharing isn’t always caring.
Don’t take off your wedding rings, you might lose them. If you are both wearing wedding rings you will look like a married couple anyway so there’s no need to hide this.
Be cautious. Use some common sense when speaking to your lover – are you somewhere private? Have you checked that they are able to talk?
NEVER visit each other’s marital homes.
Make sure you are covered with a Plan B in case Plan A falls through. If you envision all the possibilities of your affair being found out then you will always be one step ahead with the right excuse or exit plan.
Don’t get in too deep. If the affair develops into something more and begins impacting on your relationship at home – be prepared to leave. If you do not want to abandon your marriage you must always be prepared to exit the affair.